But it does not take nearly that long for family members, particularly the mate, to recognize there is a serious problem. The person suffering from alcohol abuse becomes a master at the game of denial, finding one excuse after another to explain away the need for a drink. "I can quit any time ..." "I'm just going through a difficult period." "If the wife/husband/kids/job (pick one or more) just were not so demanding ..."
Conversely, the wife/husband/significant other is well aware that there is more consumption of alcohol going on than the drinker admits. They begin finding empty bottles in the most unlikely places. They notice the bank balance being depleted at an amazing rate. They smell the tell-tale odor, but get the same excuses when they confront the abuser.
It can be a frightening situation for all involved. If you think the alcoholic isn't frightened by his own behavior, you would be wrong. Even though in denial, deep down he is well aware that the drinking is out of control and it scares him. (or her. Alcohol abuse knows no gender or age limits.)
They see the side-long glances from the mate, the kids, the coworkers or boss. They see the job in jeopardy, the bank account reflecting the over-spending, the health issues that have begun to plague them. But, sadly, there is always a "reason," a convenient excuse or scapegoat.
If you find yourself nodding or relating to the above in any way, do yourself and your family a favor while you still can by making an honest assessment of the situation and getting help. There is still a good life out there waiting for you, but only YOU can claim it.
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